Relationship Difficulties

Something about your relationships feels off.
You may feel unheard, isolated, hurt, or stuck—yet your relationships still matter to you. At Transcendent Self Therapy, we help you heal relational wounds, strengthen connection, and find more clarity and ease in relating.

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Technically, one could say that all therapy is relationship therapy on some level — therapy is relational in that it involves at least two people interacting and working toward one or several goals together. Studies show that it is the strength of the relationship between patient and therapist that is the most significant agent of change in therapy, beyond any other factor, including theoretical orientation (CBT/DBT/psychodynamic, etc.). Feeling understood, being validated, and being cared for are necessities for feeling safe, which in turn is critical for personal growth. Many of us have or have had disappointing, problematic, or harmful relationships in our lives, involving our families, partners, friends, or colleagues. Through therapy, we have the opportunity to address these unmet needs.

It’s a trope, but it’s true — the most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. Because we are social creatures by nature, we need others, yet we need to be able to show up for ourselves, set boundaries, assert our needs, and value ourselves. When we are able to do this, our other relationships will work themselves out in their own way, and we will feel more at ease, experiencing less conflict.

Our expert therapists will work with you to identify and heal your relational pain points. We approach life and our work with a spirit of openness and non-judgment. We strive to make you feel comfortable and understood, no matter what identity statuses or lifestyle you subscribe to. Understanding that life experiences are broad in scope, we’re here to meet you where you are.

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Why Relationship Work Matters

Therapy is, at its core, relational: it’s two people in dialogue. Research consistently shows that the quality of the therapeutic relationship—feeling understood, validated, safe—is one of the strongest predictors of real change, more than the specific technique used.

Many of the struggles we carry into our relationships stem from past wounds, unmet needs, and patterns that have become automatic. But with support, we can shift them.

At Transcendent Self Therapy, we’ll help you:

  • Name the relational dynamics that keep repeating

  • Understand how your internal world (beliefs, past wounds, attachment styles) shapes how you relate

  • Learn to set boundaries, express needs, and communicate more clearly

  • Heal relational pain (from childhood, past partnerships, family)

  • Strengthen your relationship with yourself—our foundational relationship

Common Challenges We Help With

You might be facing:

  • Repeated conflicts or arguments without resolution

  • Feeling unseen, misunderstood, or emotionally disconnected

  • Communication breakdowns (fear of honesty, shutting down, escalation)

  • Boundary issues (feeling over-responsible, resentment, enmeshment, people-pleasing)

  • Difficulty trusting or being vulnerable

  • Relational trauma, attachment wounds, or unresolved hurt

  • Dead zones in relationships: fading closeness, loss of intimacy

  • Struggles with identity, autonomy, or codependence as you grow

If any of these resonate, you’re not alone—and help is possible.

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Our Relational Approach

Here’s how we generally work together:

  1. Relational Exploration & Mapping
    We start by mapping your key relational patterns, wounds, and dynamics. This gives clarity to where tension originates.

  2. Inner Work & Attachment Repair
    We support the deeper healing—wounds from family, past relationships, attachment injuries—and how they influence current relationships.

  3. Communication & Boundary Skills
    You’ll practice skills to express needs, listen clearly, hold conflict, and navigate emotional risk in relationships.

  4. Integration & Relational Growth
    We weave insight + practice so that your new relational capacities become naturally embodied in your relationships.

  5. Relational Experiments & Support
    Step by step, you try new relational moves (conversation, disclosure, boundary-setting) with support and tuning.